So my wedding website was nearing completion until I decided to to work on the rsvp page. When I clicked on it I realized that you cant edit the RSVP page and it is set up in a stupid way. There is no area for invited guests to list the number in their party. So they would either have to RSVP for each individual member of their party at which point we would have to decipher who is with who, or they would just rsvp their own name for their entire party, so we would have no sweet clue what our numbers would be.
SO I am debating making the move to mywedding.com, I will keep you posted on my progress!
Wednesday, October 24, 2012
You're Awfully Young To Be Getting Married...
Oh if I had a dollar for the amount of times I've heard this one. I would think it would be obvious to the average soul that I, in fact, do realize that I am a young bride; however, they still wish to inform me at every occasion they see fit. So here is my post to the haters and how to deal with the hate. Why am I getting married so young?:
1. I've been with Josh for over four years, we started living together after 6 months of being together. Obviously we are not on the stereotypical schedule of how relationships usually go. There are a number of reasons for this that I dont plan to share with you but lets just put it this way, as a couple we have had to deal with more things in those four years, then most people have to deal with in 10. I'm not saying that to be dramatic, but it plays a role in why I said yes at 22.
2. Josh is not young. People usually say "Chelsea" in a stern voice when I say this, but well its the facts folks. There is a decent size age gap between the two of us with him being 28. He is at the age where people settle down. I on the other hand, am not, but I've also never been a person looking for a fling, I've always been attracted to people who had their shit together and knew what they were going to do with their life, so perhaps that why I'm marrying someone older (granted it took him plenty of time to get said shit together lol).
3. I dont really understand this whole notion of not having lived my fun years. People always say that one: You're missing out on your fun university years. I always interpret this as them thinking that because i'm young I should essentially be whoring myself out on the weekends. Not my style, I've had plenty of fun with Josh, I got to see my first NFL game, we went on an incredible cruise and I've had great beer and cigars on tropical islands with him. But that's not even the best part about our relationship. The most fun that I have with Josh is doing the little irrelevant traditions that we have established as a couple. like going for a milkshake together every weekend or going out for dinner and listening to live music. That is what is really fun for me because I know that I get to do those things with him for the rest of my life and I'm never going to get sick of that.
4. I see being married young as an opportunity rather than something negative. I see it as more anniversaries. Who knows maybe we will be that couple in the newspaper in 60 years that actually gets to celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary with one another. Maybe its more kids that we will have the opportunity to have. Why would I wait, when I know what I have is right. I'll be done school, Josh will be a CA (fingers crossed), we will be ready to take on the next step.
So if your young, old, or in between and getting married, it doesn't matter people are going to judge you in some way whether its your age or your wedding. These people are only judging you because they resent you, if you need to resent me to feel better about yourself, i'm okay with that, I have thick skin and as seen from my above thoughts, i dont really care what people think (this seems to be a recurring theme eh?). These people can go back to their couch with a bag of chips and continue to be hateful and bitter for the rest of their lives, I'm gonna get married and start a family in the meantime!
1. I've been with Josh for over four years, we started living together after 6 months of being together. Obviously we are not on the stereotypical schedule of how relationships usually go. There are a number of reasons for this that I dont plan to share with you but lets just put it this way, as a couple we have had to deal with more things in those four years, then most people have to deal with in 10. I'm not saying that to be dramatic, but it plays a role in why I said yes at 22.
2. Josh is not young. People usually say "Chelsea" in a stern voice when I say this, but well its the facts folks. There is a decent size age gap between the two of us with him being 28. He is at the age where people settle down. I on the other hand, am not, but I've also never been a person looking for a fling, I've always been attracted to people who had their shit together and knew what they were going to do with their life, so perhaps that why I'm marrying someone older (granted it took him plenty of time to get said shit together lol).
3. I dont really understand this whole notion of not having lived my fun years. People always say that one: You're missing out on your fun university years. I always interpret this as them thinking that because i'm young I should essentially be whoring myself out on the weekends. Not my style, I've had plenty of fun with Josh, I got to see my first NFL game, we went on an incredible cruise and I've had great beer and cigars on tropical islands with him. But that's not even the best part about our relationship. The most fun that I have with Josh is doing the little irrelevant traditions that we have established as a couple. like going for a milkshake together every weekend or going out for dinner and listening to live music. That is what is really fun for me because I know that I get to do those things with him for the rest of my life and I'm never going to get sick of that.
4. I see being married young as an opportunity rather than something negative. I see it as more anniversaries. Who knows maybe we will be that couple in the newspaper in 60 years that actually gets to celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary with one another. Maybe its more kids that we will have the opportunity to have. Why would I wait, when I know what I have is right. I'll be done school, Josh will be a CA (fingers crossed), we will be ready to take on the next step.
So if your young, old, or in between and getting married, it doesn't matter people are going to judge you in some way whether its your age or your wedding. These people are only judging you because they resent you, if you need to resent me to feel better about yourself, i'm okay with that, I have thick skin and as seen from my above thoughts, i dont really care what people think (this seems to be a recurring theme eh?). These people can go back to their couch with a bag of chips and continue to be hateful and bitter for the rest of their lives, I'm gonna get married and start a family in the meantime!
Saturday, October 20, 2012
Remember That Time...
I said I was going to watch what I eat and try and lose some weight, well guess what, I lost 15 pounds this summer and then guess what, I GAINED IT ALL BACK since I started school. So I'm for real this time, if you catch me eating chips, onion rings, drinking pop etc., slap a bitch.
Make Bride Friends
This has proved to be very beneficial for me. In my program there are three of us in the same class all getting married within a four month time period, we are all on strict budgets, we are all have moderate to large wedding, so the thought occurred to us, why are we all buying similar items at full price. If you can learn to trust other people and not be super picky about details that most people will not remember about your big day, this next bit is an ingenious idea.
The three of us have decided to go splits on certain items ie. White Lights, Tulle, Possibly Vases etc. Through being just a little flexible we are going to be saving ourselves a ton of money. Figure out who in your life is getting married and if its not possible to do like we did, offer to buy some of their stuff off of them after the wedding so as to save money. For instance I bought 15 pew markers off of another girl in my class who got married last summer for 20 bucks. I'll probably have to put like 20 more dollars into them to make them my colours etc, however, it would have cost me a couple hundred to make them myself.
Most importantly scour Kijiji for wedding items. They usually have tons of brides reselling their decorations on there. My entire wedding will be from Kijiji and the dollar store essentially and I'm not ashamed to admit it because it is still going to be stunning.
The three of us have decided to go splits on certain items ie. White Lights, Tulle, Possibly Vases etc. Through being just a little flexible we are going to be saving ourselves a ton of money. Figure out who in your life is getting married and if its not possible to do like we did, offer to buy some of their stuff off of them after the wedding so as to save money. For instance I bought 15 pew markers off of another girl in my class who got married last summer for 20 bucks. I'll probably have to put like 20 more dollars into them to make them my colours etc, however, it would have cost me a couple hundred to make them myself.
Most importantly scour Kijiji for wedding items. They usually have tons of brides reselling their decorations on there. My entire wedding will be from Kijiji and the dollar store essentially and I'm not ashamed to admit it because it is still going to be stunning.
Sunday, October 14, 2012
What I Learned From The Jack and Jill
It has been over a week since the Jack and Jill happened and it was a great time. Apart from getting to spend time with friends and family, making some money, getting a little on the rowdy drunk side and dancing up a storm, we learned some valuable lessons that we will take with us into the wedding week.
The first is that there will be a lot of little costs here and there that you wont think about that will add up quickly. For instance, meals, liquor, float money, decorations that you forgot ex. extension chords, white lights etc. We ended up spending a lot of money that weekend that we hadn't banked on.
As a couple you need to let people figure their own life out. I went into overprotective mode for this event for some reason and decided to essentially book all of the hotel rooms, I organized all of the drives even though other people had offered to do it. I think I did it this time because it wasn't the wedding so I wanted to make things as easy on everyone else as humanly possible, but I definitely wont be taking that on for the wedding!
More hands make less work? True but it also can cause more stress. There were about 20 people there during decorating time and while I appreciated everyone taking the time to come help it was about 10 people too many. 20 people means 20 different opinions, it means 20 people looking at you for a task to do. It was just too overwhelming for that day. With that said, the more men the merrier! Morris was probably my best help because he just stood beside me with a roll of tape the whole time. That's the great thing about men and weddings; they are just so overwhelmed by the idea of it, that they need a ton of direction and if they dont get direction they will continue to do their original job for the entire time. Women on the other hand will be working on a project, get bored and then find something else to do lol.
Only your opinion matters. (EVERY BRIDE MUST READ THIS) This is where you need to turn a little into bridezilla. Some people will think they know what's best for your wedding, they don't. This is going to come off bitchy but I'm not in the business of buttering people up, this isn't the sugar coated guide to planning a wedding, I want it to be real; if an opinion on something wasn't asked for, chances are I didn't want to hear it. That doesn't mean I was walking around like a dictator, I asked for a lot of opinions that day and was happy to hear them when I asked. Giving opinions that countered mine when not asked for, made me frustrated, because it made me second guess something I decided on. If I decided on something, it's because it was what I wanted, not what someone else might have done. I'm lucky because 99% of the time I genuinely dont give two shits about what other people think about my wedding and that's because I am not a pushover. The truth of the matter is I have more event planning experience than anyone else invited to my wedding (except maybe Craig and I am always open to his opinion) and I'm not ashamed to say that i'm a FANTASTIC event planner. But there are a lot of pushover people like that out there especially when it comes to friends and family. If you are grown up enough to be getting married then you should be ready to put your big girl pants on and learn to say no to people.
On a higher note, I had a ton of fun at my Jack and Jill and from what I remember, most people seemed to have a great time. Here are some photos from the event:
The first is that there will be a lot of little costs here and there that you wont think about that will add up quickly. For instance, meals, liquor, float money, decorations that you forgot ex. extension chords, white lights etc. We ended up spending a lot of money that weekend that we hadn't banked on.
As a couple you need to let people figure their own life out. I went into overprotective mode for this event for some reason and decided to essentially book all of the hotel rooms, I organized all of the drives even though other people had offered to do it. I think I did it this time because it wasn't the wedding so I wanted to make things as easy on everyone else as humanly possible, but I definitely wont be taking that on for the wedding!
More hands make less work? True but it also can cause more stress. There were about 20 people there during decorating time and while I appreciated everyone taking the time to come help it was about 10 people too many. 20 people means 20 different opinions, it means 20 people looking at you for a task to do. It was just too overwhelming for that day. With that said, the more men the merrier! Morris was probably my best help because he just stood beside me with a roll of tape the whole time. That's the great thing about men and weddings; they are just so overwhelmed by the idea of it, that they need a ton of direction and if they dont get direction they will continue to do their original job for the entire time. Women on the other hand will be working on a project, get bored and then find something else to do lol.
Only your opinion matters. (EVERY BRIDE MUST READ THIS) This is where you need to turn a little into bridezilla. Some people will think they know what's best for your wedding, they don't. This is going to come off bitchy but I'm not in the business of buttering people up, this isn't the sugar coated guide to planning a wedding, I want it to be real; if an opinion on something wasn't asked for, chances are I didn't want to hear it. That doesn't mean I was walking around like a dictator, I asked for a lot of opinions that day and was happy to hear them when I asked. Giving opinions that countered mine when not asked for, made me frustrated, because it made me second guess something I decided on. If I decided on something, it's because it was what I wanted, not what someone else might have done. I'm lucky because 99% of the time I genuinely dont give two shits about what other people think about my wedding and that's because I am not a pushover. The truth of the matter is I have more event planning experience than anyone else invited to my wedding (except maybe Craig and I am always open to his opinion) and I'm not ashamed to say that i'm a FANTASTIC event planner. But there are a lot of pushover people like that out there especially when it comes to friends and family. If you are grown up enough to be getting married then you should be ready to put your big girl pants on and learn to say no to people.
On a higher note, I had a ton of fun at my Jack and Jill and from what I remember, most people seemed to have a great time. Here are some photos from the event:
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
My Favorite Websites
Wedding websites are becoming a popular part of wedding planning. I've navigated my way through many of the popular websites today and I am here to share my thoughts on a few of them that you may stumble upon when working on your wedding. I'm going to divide them into Create Your Own Wedding Website and just Wedding Websites.
Wedding Websites:
So these are where you can find wedding products, ideas etc. Some of the create your own wedding websites offer products and ideas, as well and I will mention them in their section. Here are my favorite product and ideas websites:
1. davidsbridal.ca- I put David's Bridal first because it is a very reliable, well-known website that is essentially a one stop shop for everything wedding. Hell, you could even buy your dress online if you wanted to. They have hundreds of bridesmaid dresses, accessories, items for the ceremony and reception, invitations and other stationary-- THEY HAVE EVERYTHING. They also ship to Canada, which I've learned is sort of rare with these websites.
2. Etsy.com- Etsy is my favorite. It is like an online marketplace where vendors can promote their handmade (usually vintage inspired) items. They have headpieces, jewelry, art, clothing but they have GREAT wedding items. I'm buying all of my jewelry, my headpiece, one of my bridesmaid gifts and probably many more things from Etsy. The only thing about Etsy is that each thing you buy is from a vendor, so you are paying that specific vendor to ship something, if you buy multiple things from multiple vendors, you wil end up paying multiple shipping costs.
3. recycledbride.com- If you are on an extremely strict budget and dont mind second hand items, this website is heavenly. It is all brides reselling their wedding decor and clothing. In some cases you can buy brand new never worn wedding dresses at a fraction of the cost because the brides had a change of heart. It is a pretty good site and even better if you are looking to make some money after your wedding
Obviously there are many more websites for wedding products, these are just three of my favorites.
Now onto create your own wedding websites:
Josh and I decided to use a wedding website because it saves us money, it is more organized and just easier than receiving hundreds of response cards. With that said, when it comes to elderly guests, they will get a response card in their invitation mail out.
1. mywedding.com- This was the first wedding website creator I tried and it was probably the next best thing to the one I went with. It has a lot of options with your website, it has a budget creator, inspiration pages, a blog option etc. However, the layout is slightly annoying to navigate and some of the options are slow at processing. So I opted to search for something else.
2. weddingbells.ca- I looked into this website because it is Canadian, but quickly found out that this is the only convenient thing about this website. It was horrendously slow, had an outdated look, not as many website or inspiration options. I was extremely frustrated when I was trying to make a website on this page so I quit while I was ahead.
3. theknot.com- This is what I ended up going with. The Knot offers great wedding inspirations and ideas, an amazing budget tool, great website options, seating chart creators, checklists, guest list creators. It has been an amazing tool and guests are able to RSVP on that website and it is sent directly to my email and phone plus kept on the website to keep everything organized. I'm still working on our wedding website, but feel free to check out the draft: king-stewart.ourwedding.com
The only disadvantage that I have found is that the knot online wedding shop (which is amazing by the way) wont ship to Canada, I had a number of things picked out and when I went to purchase I wasn't allowed to, so that was frustrating, but other than that I've had nothing but a positive experience.
Wedding Websites:
So these are where you can find wedding products, ideas etc. Some of the create your own wedding websites offer products and ideas, as well and I will mention them in their section. Here are my favorite product and ideas websites:
1. davidsbridal.ca- I put David's Bridal first because it is a very reliable, well-known website that is essentially a one stop shop for everything wedding. Hell, you could even buy your dress online if you wanted to. They have hundreds of bridesmaid dresses, accessories, items for the ceremony and reception, invitations and other stationary-- THEY HAVE EVERYTHING. They also ship to Canada, which I've learned is sort of rare with these websites.
2. Etsy.com- Etsy is my favorite. It is like an online marketplace where vendors can promote their handmade (usually vintage inspired) items. They have headpieces, jewelry, art, clothing but they have GREAT wedding items. I'm buying all of my jewelry, my headpiece, one of my bridesmaid gifts and probably many more things from Etsy. The only thing about Etsy is that each thing you buy is from a vendor, so you are paying that specific vendor to ship something, if you buy multiple things from multiple vendors, you wil end up paying multiple shipping costs.
3. recycledbride.com- If you are on an extremely strict budget and dont mind second hand items, this website is heavenly. It is all brides reselling their wedding decor and clothing. In some cases you can buy brand new never worn wedding dresses at a fraction of the cost because the brides had a change of heart. It is a pretty good site and even better if you are looking to make some money after your wedding
Obviously there are many more websites for wedding products, these are just three of my favorites.
Now onto create your own wedding websites:
Josh and I decided to use a wedding website because it saves us money, it is more organized and just easier than receiving hundreds of response cards. With that said, when it comes to elderly guests, they will get a response card in their invitation mail out.
1. mywedding.com- This was the first wedding website creator I tried and it was probably the next best thing to the one I went with. It has a lot of options with your website, it has a budget creator, inspiration pages, a blog option etc. However, the layout is slightly annoying to navigate and some of the options are slow at processing. So I opted to search for something else.
2. weddingbells.ca- I looked into this website because it is Canadian, but quickly found out that this is the only convenient thing about this website. It was horrendously slow, had an outdated look, not as many website or inspiration options. I was extremely frustrated when I was trying to make a website on this page so I quit while I was ahead.
3. theknot.com- This is what I ended up going with. The Knot offers great wedding inspirations and ideas, an amazing budget tool, great website options, seating chart creators, checklists, guest list creators. It has been an amazing tool and guests are able to RSVP on that website and it is sent directly to my email and phone plus kept on the website to keep everything organized. I'm still working on our wedding website, but feel free to check out the draft: king-stewart.ourwedding.com
The only disadvantage that I have found is that the knot online wedding shop (which is amazing by the way) wont ship to Canada, I had a number of things picked out and when I went to purchase I wasn't allowed to, so that was frustrating, but other than that I've had nothing but a positive experience.
Monday, September 17, 2012
Wedding Shoes
Some days are just fun, like the day you buy you're wedding shoes. I decided to go shiny because everything else will be pretty laid back and I need to shine!
Also my dress came in and it fits, with even a little bit of wiggle room HOORAY!
Music, Music, Music!
I have an extremely strong opinion about my wedding music and other people's wedding music I just choose not to share those views with them because, to each their own. This is the only subject that I become Bridezilla on... so far. I will say it now, there will be no requests at my wedding or Jack and Jill, i've heard too much shitty music at other weddings to want to hear it at my own (yes I am a bitter bitch on the subject). One thing that bothers me is when I see grandparents at a wedding watching the younger people grind to Usher on the dance floor, I think there is a place for that and its not at an event with all ages, but again people should have whatever they want at their own wedding.
Planning the music for the Jack and Jill, which is coming up in three weeks has been the absolute most fun part of wedding planning to date. I've put A LOT of thought into the music, there is no new crappy music in the playlist, it is all classic "fire hall" music with a celtic, Cape Breton flare. Having a father who plays in the band and being brought up looking at set lists, I have a pretty good eye for which songs work and dont work and the order songs should be put in. People who are new to planning set lists typically put WAY too many waltzes in their lineup there should only be 5-6 waltzes in a dance.
It is important to me that this is a party for everyone, old, young and in between. I chose songs that are classics, from a variety of genres, that are easy to dance to.
Here is the draft of the set list (The #s are off and the highlighted ones are the waltzes, feel free to steal this for your own needs):
Planning the music for the Jack and Jill, which is coming up in three weeks has been the absolute most fun part of wedding planning to date. I've put A LOT of thought into the music, there is no new crappy music in the playlist, it is all classic "fire hall" music with a celtic, Cape Breton flare. Having a father who plays in the band and being brought up looking at set lists, I have a pretty good eye for which songs work and dont work and the order songs should be put in. People who are new to planning set lists typically put WAY too many waltzes in their lineup there should only be 5-6 waltzes in a dance.
It is important to me that this is a party for everyone, old, young and in between. I chose songs that are classics, from a variety of genres, that are easy to dance to.
Here is the draft of the set list (The #s are off and the highlighted ones are the waltzes, feel free to steal this for your own needs):
1. Some Kind
of Wonderful- Grand Funk Railroad
2. Long
Train Running Doobie Brothers
3. My Own
Way To Rock- Burton Cummings
4. My
Sharona- The Knack
5. Pocket Full of Gold- Vince Gill
6. Brown
Eyed Girl- Van Morrison
7. Here for
A Good Time- Trooper
6. Only The Good Die Young- Billy Joel
7. Keep your
Hands To Yourself- Georgia Satellites
8. Spirit in
The Sky- Dr. Hook
9. Johnny Be
Good- Chuck Berry
10. Taking
Care of Business- BTO
11. Doin It
Right- Powder Blues Band
12. Shakey
Ground- Delbert McClinton
13. Rock and
Roll is King- ELO
13. Better Be Home Soon- Crowded House
14. Movin’
On – Rankin Family
15. Rock
This Town- Stray Cats
16. Lager
and Ale- Kim Mitchell
17. You May
Be Right- Billy Joel
18. Sharp
Dressed Man- ZZ Top
19. Brick
House- The Commodores
20. Magic
Carpet Ride- Steppenwolf
20. Black or
White- Michael Jackson (short version)
21. I Want
You Back- Jackson 5
22. Kiss-
Prince
23. Summer
of 69- Bryan Adams
24. Look at Us- Vince Gill
25. Fat
Bottom Girls- Queen
26. Old Black Rum- Great Big Sea
27. Heave Away- Fables
27. Sold-
John Michael Montgomery
28. Boot
Scootin Boogie- Brooks and Dunn
28.
Chattahoochie- Alan Jackson
29. Twist
and Shout- Beatles
30. Aint Too
Proud To Beg- Temptations
31. Don’t
Bring Me Down- Electrolight Orchestra
32. You Make
My Dreams Come True- Hall and Oates
33. I wish-
Stevie Wonder
34. The Way
You Make Me Feel- Michael Jackson
35. Make You Feel My Love- Adele
36.
Footloose- Kenny Loggins
37. Oh What
A Night- Four Seasons
38. Play
That Funky Music- Wild Cherry
39. Superstition-
Stevie Wonder
39. Hurt So
Good- John Cougar Mellancamp
40. Mony
Mony- Billy Joel
40. Born to
Be Wild- Steppenwolf
40. Tush- ZZ
Top
41. Pour
Some Sugar on Me- Def Leppard
41. Night that Patty Murphy Died- Great Big
Sea
41. 500
miles- The Proclaimers
42. Home For
A Rest- Spirit of the West
43. Shook Me
All Night Long- ACDC
44. Crazy- Aerosmith
44.
Authority Song- John Cougar Mellancamp
45. Old Time
Rock and Roll- Bob Seger
46. Callin’
Baton Rouge- Garth Brooks
47. SHOUT-
Isley Brothers
48. You Feel
The Same Way Too- Rankin Family
49. Mull
River Shuffle- Rankin Family
50. Friends in Low Places- Garth Brooks
Bouquets
Another great tip for all you brides to be: BE FLEXIBLE. One of my bridesmaids and I were going to Michaels just to get ideas about flowers and there was a great sale on so we bought all of the flowers for my bouquets (please see previous post on my extreme hatred for real flowers). A real bridal bouquet typically can range anywhere from $100-400 (ridonculous), I got all of the flowers for 6 bridesmaid bouquets and my huge bouquet for less than $200.00 so I saved a butt load of money! We got really eager and decided to make the bouquets that day as well, here is my cheap DIY Bridal Bouquet:
Engagement Photos
I know I've been slacking but it has been a crazy month. This was a treat, to say the very least. On our last trip to Cape Breton, Josh and I, along with our extremely talented photographer Shoshanna Fraser decided to do a little engagement shoot. People seem to have varying opinions on engagement photos and I can understand the hesitation if you are paying a lot of money or dont particularly enjoy having your photos taken, but Shoshanna recommends it and now I definitely recommend it. Having professional photos taken at a location other than Walmart or Superstore can be slightly intimidating, of course, if you have the model personality that I do it is a breeze (jokes).
It is, in all honesty, slightly awkward at first trying to not look posed while posing and I'm happy that we got that awkwardness out of the way before our wedding photos. It is a great way to get that lucky man used to having a camera all up in his grill too, because Josh was certainly not prepared and was certainly not a fan, as most straight men of the world are not. It was nice for us to get together with our photographer in a more relaxed setting than what I would imagine our wedding day will be like and tell her what angles we like, dont like, which photos we are pros at and which ones we suck at. It helped us and Shoshanna get more comfortable with each other, understand how she works and we learned quickly that she's the best. Having a photographer that you can have fun with, I realized very quickly, is so important for the photos not turning out posed; all of the smiles and laughing photos were genuine because I was either laughing at Josh or laughing at the fact that Shoshanna swears just as much as ... well ... Josh and I.
The results are simply the best; we have gorgeous photos of us in our normal clothes in a beautiful setting that we can treasure forever and it got us very excited (Josh slightly less than myself) for our wedding photos.
Here is the link to Shoshanna's Website: http://www.sfraserphoto.com/ and you can find her photography group on facebook by searching Shoshanna Fraser Photography. She is the BOMB.
It is, in all honesty, slightly awkward at first trying to not look posed while posing and I'm happy that we got that awkwardness out of the way before our wedding photos. It is a great way to get that lucky man used to having a camera all up in his grill too, because Josh was certainly not prepared and was certainly not a fan, as most straight men of the world are not. It was nice for us to get together with our photographer in a more relaxed setting than what I would imagine our wedding day will be like and tell her what angles we like, dont like, which photos we are pros at and which ones we suck at. It helped us and Shoshanna get more comfortable with each other, understand how she works and we learned quickly that she's the best. Having a photographer that you can have fun with, I realized very quickly, is so important for the photos not turning out posed; all of the smiles and laughing photos were genuine because I was either laughing at Josh or laughing at the fact that Shoshanna swears just as much as ... well ... Josh and I.
The results are simply the best; we have gorgeous photos of us in our normal clothes in a beautiful setting that we can treasure forever and it got us very excited (Josh slightly less than myself) for our wedding photos.
Here is the link to Shoshanna's Website: http://www.sfraserphoto.com/ and you can find her photography group on facebook by searching Shoshanna Fraser Photography. She is the BOMB.
Sunday, July 8, 2012
Keeping Fat Away From My Body
This will be an ongoing topic for the blog because, well, it will be an ongoing struggle over the next year. I'm not going to sit here and say i'm chubby, because i'm not; I am a healthy sized individual, HOWEVER, people might be surprised to hear that I've gained 20 pounds since starting University (I blame this on Josh).
The problem is not that I gained that much weight, I went from 5 ft to 5 ft 8 in a year and I looked like a nasty stick for much of my teenage years so I needed to gain that weight, the problem is proportions. I am one of those lucky individuals who primarily gains weight in the lower half of my body, in other words yes, while I have do have a black woman's ass, it looks cottage cheese when I'm naked. I dont do a lot to fix this because well, as this blog would suggest, I've found the person i'll likely be with for the rest of my life so who am I trying to impress now and in all honesty cottage cheese or not, I wasn't blessed with boobs and everyone knows it so why would I want to do anything to loose the one curve I have. The problem of my large ass came up when shopping for wedding dresses. When they took my measurements the brutally honest british or scottish or irish old lady at winchesters (if you've been in the store you know who I am talking about) so graciously told me that on the bottom I am a size 10 on top I am a size 4. So we ordered an 8 because I could likely squeeze my ass into it and it wouldn't come with outrageously oversized cups for my little A boobies. This means that in the wise words of Winchester's lady "Chelsea, you simply cannot gain any weight in the next year unless its in your breasts." News flash, i've been waiting for 22 years to gain weight in my tits and it ain't happening so basically I just cant gain weight.
I made a deal with myself that I would eat healthy when I started working for the summer and I've actually been doing really well. I dont eat fast food, I eat a small sized salad everyday for lunch with a healthy dressing a.k.a. not caesar or ranch but vinagrettes usually. I eat a small breakfast and I've been eating relatively healthy dinners. Chasing around kids for nine and a half hours four days a week has helped a lot too. So far i've only focused on a change in diet because I work really long hours and Josh studies all night so the two hours I would use to go to the gym are the only two hours a day I get to spend with Josh awake right now so I'm using them. The good news is i've lost five pounds already and I feel a lot better. I'm going to try these Green Monster Smoothies in the near future that are packed full of spinach to up my game even more.
If I get in a pickle come dress fitting time I have a few cleanses in mind that I might try over the next year (not crazy ones dont worry, I will still eat). But so far so good on the wedding diet. So if you see me with something I shouldn't have I give you full permission to scold me like I am a child.
The problem is not that I gained that much weight, I went from 5 ft to 5 ft 8 in a year and I looked like a nasty stick for much of my teenage years so I needed to gain that weight, the problem is proportions. I am one of those lucky individuals who primarily gains weight in the lower half of my body, in other words yes, while I have do have a black woman's ass, it looks cottage cheese when I'm naked. I dont do a lot to fix this because well, as this blog would suggest, I've found the person i'll likely be with for the rest of my life so who am I trying to impress now and in all honesty cottage cheese or not, I wasn't blessed with boobs and everyone knows it so why would I want to do anything to loose the one curve I have. The problem of my large ass came up when shopping for wedding dresses. When they took my measurements the brutally honest british or scottish or irish old lady at winchesters (if you've been in the store you know who I am talking about) so graciously told me that on the bottom I am a size 10 on top I am a size 4. So we ordered an 8 because I could likely squeeze my ass into it and it wouldn't come with outrageously oversized cups for my little A boobies. This means that in the wise words of Winchester's lady "Chelsea, you simply cannot gain any weight in the next year unless its in your breasts." News flash, i've been waiting for 22 years to gain weight in my tits and it ain't happening so basically I just cant gain weight.
I made a deal with myself that I would eat healthy when I started working for the summer and I've actually been doing really well. I dont eat fast food, I eat a small sized salad everyday for lunch with a healthy dressing a.k.a. not caesar or ranch but vinagrettes usually. I eat a small breakfast and I've been eating relatively healthy dinners. Chasing around kids for nine and a half hours four days a week has helped a lot too. So far i've only focused on a change in diet because I work really long hours and Josh studies all night so the two hours I would use to go to the gym are the only two hours a day I get to spend with Josh awake right now so I'm using them. The good news is i've lost five pounds already and I feel a lot better. I'm going to try these Green Monster Smoothies in the near future that are packed full of spinach to up my game even more.
If I get in a pickle come dress fitting time I have a few cleanses in mind that I might try over the next year (not crazy ones dont worry, I will still eat). But so far so good on the wedding diet. So if you see me with something I shouldn't have I give you full permission to scold me like I am a child.
The Budget
I find one of the questions I get asked most frequently is about our budget. People get these ridiculous ideas about budget from watching shows like Four Weddings and Say Yes To The Dress, in which most of the budgets are geared towards large city weddings with people who are basically taking out a second mortgage on there house in order to finance their lavish events. Before I tell you our budget its important to remember that we are having at least 200 guests and that I am calling in a lot of favours and cutting a lot corners to save money. Our budget right now is around $10,000. Now this seems like a lot of money, but to put on a wedding with 200 guests, this is about as cheap as it comes nowadays and if we were getting married in the city I can guarantee it would be a lot more expensive.
Food will be the huge cost. We are paying 15.95 a plate plus 15% gratuity and 15% tax so multiply that by 200 and some and you get around $4000.00. Remember that one bottle of red and one bottle of white wine are usually found on every table in your reception hall so that is another 500ish bucks that isn't included in your meal cost. So food alone is basically half of our budget.
Photography is the next largest kicker. Our photography package costs $2500.00 and I am excited to spend every penny on it. To me photography is the second most important part of the day next to the dress and maybe the booze, okay make it the third most important thing. These images will help you relive that special day.
My dress, which has already been purchased cost $1010.00. When you add in my veil, jewellery and shoes I will have spent 1300.00 on my outfit. I can tell you that at any Bridal Store in Nova Scotia you will find VERY FEW dresses for more than $2500.00 so dont let Say Yes To The Dress freak you out. I tried on the priciest designers at Winchesters and no dress that I tried on was priced higher than $2000.00.
The hotel suite that we are getting is the last major cost, because well I want it to be the best Sydney Nova Scotia has to offer and we're staying in it for three nights. The rest of the budget will go to little things that add up like the guest book, cake topper, flower girl dress etc etc.
We're cutting costs by using fake flowers (I know some of you are having an anxiety attack right now, but I fucking hate flowers and they are expensive and they will die the next day so get your priorities straight people), a friend of mine is doing the decorating as she has an amazing decorating company called Table 4 U (look her up on facebook, she travels throughout NS), another friend is DJing for us, I am making my own wedding cake. I'm making edible place cards that double as favours, I'm making centrepieces, bouquets, invitations (and I'm hand delivering as many as possible).
So there is our secret, if you choose to go our DIY way, be prepared for a year of hard work but a more gratifying and cheaper experience in the end.
Food will be the huge cost. We are paying 15.95 a plate plus 15% gratuity and 15% tax so multiply that by 200 and some and you get around $4000.00. Remember that one bottle of red and one bottle of white wine are usually found on every table in your reception hall so that is another 500ish bucks that isn't included in your meal cost. So food alone is basically half of our budget.
Photography is the next largest kicker. Our photography package costs $2500.00 and I am excited to spend every penny on it. To me photography is the second most important part of the day next to the dress and maybe the booze, okay make it the third most important thing. These images will help you relive that special day.
My dress, which has already been purchased cost $1010.00. When you add in my veil, jewellery and shoes I will have spent 1300.00 on my outfit. I can tell you that at any Bridal Store in Nova Scotia you will find VERY FEW dresses for more than $2500.00 so dont let Say Yes To The Dress freak you out. I tried on the priciest designers at Winchesters and no dress that I tried on was priced higher than $2000.00.
The hotel suite that we are getting is the last major cost, because well I want it to be the best Sydney Nova Scotia has to offer and we're staying in it for three nights. The rest of the budget will go to little things that add up like the guest book, cake topper, flower girl dress etc etc.
We're cutting costs by using fake flowers (I know some of you are having an anxiety attack right now, but I fucking hate flowers and they are expensive and they will die the next day so get your priorities straight people), a friend of mine is doing the decorating as she has an amazing decorating company called Table 4 U (look her up on facebook, she travels throughout NS), another friend is DJing for us, I am making my own wedding cake. I'm making edible place cards that double as favours, I'm making centrepieces, bouquets, invitations (and I'm hand delivering as many as possible).
So there is our secret, if you choose to go our DIY way, be prepared for a year of hard work but a more gratifying and cheaper experience in the end.
Friday, June 22, 2012
A great find!
In the spirit of trying to pay for things now so it is not such a huge cost later, I have been on the hunt for my invitations. There are two ways you can do invitations:
1. You can order them from a place like David's Bridal or Michael's and pay for them to print them for you (I haven't found this option for cheaper than $350.00 for the 150 invitations I need) or...
2. You can buy a DIY kit and print them at home or somewhere else. Obviously since DIY is my middle name I decided to choose this more cost effective method.
I searched at David's Bridal, Michael's and other places and the general consensus was that a DIY pack of 40 invitations would cost around 40 bucks and I would need at least three of them so that would be around $150 with taxes in. I decided to hold off and keep looking. A friend of mine told me she saw invitations at home sense so I decided to go and check it out. I found three packages of 50 invitations, envelopes, response cards, and thank you cards for 9.99 each and they were in my colors. So for $34 I bought all of the stationary and envelopes for my wedding other than programs and I am delighted by this!
So brides go to home sense if you are looking to save some money on something that most people are just gonna throw out anyways!
1. You can order them from a place like David's Bridal or Michael's and pay for them to print them for you (I haven't found this option for cheaper than $350.00 for the 150 invitations I need) or...
2. You can buy a DIY kit and print them at home or somewhere else. Obviously since DIY is my middle name I decided to choose this more cost effective method.
I searched at David's Bridal, Michael's and other places and the general consensus was that a DIY pack of 40 invitations would cost around 40 bucks and I would need at least three of them so that would be around $150 with taxes in. I decided to hold off and keep looking. A friend of mine told me she saw invitations at home sense so I decided to go and check it out. I found three packages of 50 invitations, envelopes, response cards, and thank you cards for 9.99 each and they were in my colors. So for $34 I bought all of the stationary and envelopes for my wedding other than programs and I am delighted by this!
So brides go to home sense if you are looking to save some money on something that most people are just gonna throw out anyways!
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
The Initial Costs You May Not Think About
One part of this wedding planning process that I was not prepared for were the initial costs to get started. Initially this wasn't a concern of mine because we were planning on taking two years to get married and if you are not in a stable financial situation taking more than a year and a half to plan would be very smart. When we switch out date to be in a year and a few months, we immediately needed to start booking stuff. Depending on where you plan to get married you may have a little more leniency in when you start booking depending on if it is a tourist destination, the time of year, the amount of wedding venues etc. But, if you have a specific idea of where you want your wedding to be and which photographer, videographer etc you want, you should plan to book AT LEAST a year in advance. All of these services require deposits, unless you get seriously lucky. Here is the breakdown of what we have had to pay this month to get everything booked:
Hall Rental- $500.00 deposit
Photography- $200.00 deposit
Jack and Jill- $150.00 deposit.
Keep in mind that I am doing most of my wedding myself. Decorators, Videographers, DJs, Florists, Wedding Planners, Bakeries etc all typically require a deposit. We are getting married in a church so it isn't costing us money but if you were getting married at a private venue that would probably be another couple hundred dollars. The amount of money we would have to spend this early on had never even crossed my mind, so hopefully this will help you be a little more prepared than we were.
Hall Rental- $500.00 deposit
Photography- $200.00 deposit
Jack and Jill- $150.00 deposit.
Keep in mind that I am doing most of my wedding myself. Decorators, Videographers, DJs, Florists, Wedding Planners, Bakeries etc all typically require a deposit. We are getting married in a church so it isn't costing us money but if you were getting married at a private venue that would probably be another couple hundred dollars. The amount of money we would have to spend this early on had never even crossed my mind, so hopefully this will help you be a little more prepared than we were.
Wednesday, June 6, 2012
Rolling With The Punches
The last week has been crazy. As crazy as it was, it made me realize how flexible you have to be when planning a wedding. We thought we had our date set in stone, however, unfortunately when booking our hall we found out it was already booked. This sent up red flags for Josh and I because its a pretty small community and chances are we would know who booked it. So we put the question out there and found out that one of Josh's good friends had booked his wedding that weekend.
So started the scramble. We had to look for another weekend, we had to call everyone back and rebook everything. I seriously considered eloping at this point, it still goes through my mind every once in awhile, but it will all be worth it once it is the big day.
We rescheduled everything for October 26th, 2013. Ceremony at St. Joseph's in North Sydney, Reception at Sydney Mines Fireman's Centre.
Hoorayyy!
So started the scramble. We had to look for another weekend, we had to call everyone back and rebook everything. I seriously considered eloping at this point, it still goes through my mind every once in awhile, but it will all be worth it once it is the big day.
We rescheduled everything for October 26th, 2013. Ceremony at St. Joseph's in North Sydney, Reception at Sydney Mines Fireman's Centre.
Hoorayyy!
Monday, May 28, 2012
The Torturous Guest List
The guest list has been our task of the week. We haven't stuck with a perfect number yet but we are looking at between 180-220 guests. We started by simply writing down, in a perfect world scenario, ever person we would want at our wedding. Be prepared, that number will be massive if you have large families and friend groups. The first round of cuts is easy and yes I know this sounds like a cruel process and for the most part it is, you basically are evaluating all of your relationships and ranking them. We all know that there will be about 20 or so people that you really dont need at your wedding.
The next steps were challenging our list was at 170. This would be ideal if not every person technically gets a plus one. Then I go go gadgeted into Bridal Bitch mode, where, I came to the realization that I am not paying for random people to be fed at my wedding. New plan: If someone has a significant other, by all means they are invited as your plus one, if not, do not plan to seek out a date for my wedding. People tend to forget that for every person that comes into that reception hall, I have to feed them a three course meal and they need to have wine available to them on the tables. I am not paying $20 bucks a person for some random date. SO here is my best piece of advice, if they have a significant other send the invitation to them and their plus one, if not, you need only put their name on the invitation.
This still makes it difficult because I have no idea who will be in relationships in a year from now. So I continued to cut. I am inviting none of my good friend's parents except my best friend. I cut out childhood friends. I cut out some university friends who I dont hang out with often. I kept cutting until I couldn't rationalize why I was cutting these individuals anymore or until I felt extremely guilty. We are now down to 130 invitations being sent out (doesn't include wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, kids). So there will be a butt load of people there still, which is fine by me. I've always said I wanted a big wedding, but I also need to not go over the capacity of the hall.
If I were to assume something very prematurely, it would be that this is probably the least fun part of wedding planning. It sucks to have friends that you love, that will not be invited to the wedding because you cant afford it or because there isn't enough room but, C'est La Vie.
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
The Date Is Set/ The Church Is Booked/ The Dress Is Bought
The most exciting things have been happening the last couple of weeks.
First of all, we booked our church and now I may have to change the URL of the blog because SURPRISE, we are getting married in 2013. Long story short we figured out we could afford this wedding sooner than we had expected. So we are getting married on OCTOBER 12th, 2013, which is the long weekend. I was somewhat hesitant about booking my wedding on a long weekend, however, I, personally, dont feel that many people care too much about Thanksgiving and the wedding is on Saturday so they could be back for Thanksgiving dinner on Sunday or Monday. The other nice thing about having it on a long weekend is that it will be a lot of our guest's first time in Cape Breton or they've only been there a few times and fall in Cape Breton is breath taking so it will be nice for them to be able to have a mini vacation there. It is also extremely convenient for people travelling, which there will be a lot of.
We booked the church that I mentioned in a previous post and we are so excited! I'm still working on a reception facility.
Secondly, we booked our photographer. We went with Shoshanna Fraser Photography and Shoshanna is an amazing photographer in Cape Breton. She has shot many of our friends and Josh's sister's weddings. She does fantastic work and I would highly recommend her if you are getting married in Cape Breton. Her prices are also very reasonable and her excitement for photography shows through her pictures. Here is her website http://www.sfraserphoto.com/index.html
Lastly, I BOUGHT MY DRESS. My mom, sister and three of my bridesmaids set out with me to, what was supposed to be Winchesters and a return trip to Felicity, however, we ended up only needing to go to Winchesters. I tried on about seven dresses but ended up buying the first dress that I tried on. It was only $1010.00, which was heavenly because my second favorite dress, which I will post a photo of, was like $700.00 more than that. I'm not going to post a picture of my dress because the surprise is more fun, but here is a picture of what was my second favorite.
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This is the one at felicity I was thinking of buying as well
First of all, we booked our church and now I may have to change the URL of the blog because SURPRISE, we are getting married in 2013. Long story short we figured out we could afford this wedding sooner than we had expected. So we are getting married on OCTOBER 12th, 2013, which is the long weekend. I was somewhat hesitant about booking my wedding on a long weekend, however, I, personally, dont feel that many people care too much about Thanksgiving and the wedding is on Saturday so they could be back for Thanksgiving dinner on Sunday or Monday. The other nice thing about having it on a long weekend is that it will be a lot of our guest's first time in Cape Breton or they've only been there a few times and fall in Cape Breton is breath taking so it will be nice for them to be able to have a mini vacation there. It is also extremely convenient for people travelling, which there will be a lot of.
We booked the church that I mentioned in a previous post and we are so excited! I'm still working on a reception facility.
Secondly, we booked our photographer. We went with Shoshanna Fraser Photography and Shoshanna is an amazing photographer in Cape Breton. She has shot many of our friends and Josh's sister's weddings. She does fantastic work and I would highly recommend her if you are getting married in Cape Breton. Her prices are also very reasonable and her excitement for photography shows through her pictures. Here is her website http://www.sfraserphoto.com/index.html
Lastly, I BOUGHT MY DRESS. My mom, sister and three of my bridesmaids set out with me to, what was supposed to be Winchesters and a return trip to Felicity, however, we ended up only needing to go to Winchesters. I tried on about seven dresses but ended up buying the first dress that I tried on. It was only $1010.00, which was heavenly because my second favorite dress, which I will post a photo of, was like $700.00 more than that. I'm not going to post a picture of my dress because the surprise is more fun, but here is a picture of what was my second favorite.
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This is the one at felicity I was thinking of buying as well
Thursday, May 3, 2012
Being a Miss, while planning to be a Mrs
I know, I know; I said I would stay on top of this blog and alas, I have failed the last couple of weeks. BUT I have an excuse: For the past month I have been on practicum (i'm doing my teaching degree for those of you who live on another planet). I've been teaching sixty 17 year olds during that time and needless to say, I've found myself only having time to eat, sleep, shower (occasionally) and teach.
My kids have been very enthusiastic about helping me plan my wedding, sometimes a little to enthusiastic. I had a girl today tell me I should wear a hot pink wedding dress, I told her I wasn't auditioning for my big fat gypsy wedding and that I'll probably stick with white or some variation because of that!
What I've learned is that I should probably do the bulk of my planning before I start teaching again next year for four months, because I am way to exhausted to plan or blog about planning. I hear the word "miss" at least 300000 times a day usually in the form of "Miss, if I punch so and so will you kick me out", "Miss, how do you spell this", "Miss, I DONT WANNA DO THIS, ITS STUPID"; This has made me never want to hear the word "miss" or "mrs" for a very long time!
So as much as I have been thoroughly entertained by this practicum and my kids wacky wedding suggestions, needless to say I am pretty excited to not suffer from exhaustion any more and to get back to planning! One more week... I think I can, I think I can!
My kids have been very enthusiastic about helping me plan my wedding, sometimes a little to enthusiastic. I had a girl today tell me I should wear a hot pink wedding dress, I told her I wasn't auditioning for my big fat gypsy wedding and that I'll probably stick with white or some variation because of that!
What I've learned is that I should probably do the bulk of my planning before I start teaching again next year for four months, because I am way to exhausted to plan or blog about planning. I hear the word "miss" at least 300000 times a day usually in the form of "Miss, if I punch so and so will you kick me out", "Miss, how do you spell this", "Miss, I DONT WANNA DO THIS, ITS STUPID"; This has made me never want to hear the word "miss" or "mrs" for a very long time!
So as much as I have been thoroughly entertained by this practicum and my kids wacky wedding suggestions, needless to say I am pretty excited to not suffer from exhaustion any more and to get back to planning! One more week... I think I can, I think I can!
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Choosing The People You Want By Your Side
I have no idea how this is such an easy task for men to complete, but Josh literally has no issue with choosing his future groomsmen. I, on the other hand, had a very difficult time choosing my bridesmaids because girlfriends are like gangs and when in a gang you get close to a lot of different people and then they get territorial over you and it becomes no fun anymore to have to choose some of them to be your bridesmaids. We decided on five maybe six in the future, for our bridal party, this was mainly Josh's choice because he has a very tight knit group of friends, whereas I have a few super close friends and a lot of good friends.
I wanted my bridal party to be made up of people who have been important to me at different stages in my life but that I haven't really lost touch with. Obviously my sister was the easiest pick, it would be pretty hard to find anyone who has cared about me longer than her, but the next easiest choice was my best friend Courtney who i've been best friends with since we toddlers. We've been planning our weddings, kids names, and dream homes since we were little girls and it wouldn't be my perfect wedding without her standing beside me. I had thought about adding more people from home, but truth be told, my life has changed drastically since I've lived at home, most of them have either never met Josh or dont know our life together very well so it just didn't make sense to me.
The Mount on the other hand was the birthplace of our relationship and I have met some of the people who I REALLY grew up with at the Mount. During my first two years at the mount Jenny, Sarah and I were completely inseparable, which was not always beneficial to our grades or the health of our liver, In my third year when we stopped living in the same building we weren't quite as inseparable but they were still the two people that I confided in, that I got silly drunk with and that I needed in my life to keep me sane. Britt and I didn't become overly close until our third year of university. I like to call Britt my easy friend (not that way, mind out of the gutter). She has this totally laid back and easy going personality, she is so fun to be around, always available for a talk or a beer and I am always happy and calm when I am around her!
I chose these girls because they are the friends that I never want to lose touch with, that I can trust with anything and everything and that will put my best interest first. What I've noticed over the past month is that the three or four people that deserve to be in my wedding party just as much as the above mentioned girls have been so unbelievably supportive towards me because I think that they know that it was a difficult decision for me and that I still want them to be a part of the planning and everything like that; whereas, there is another small group of girls who probably will not understand or be okay with the fact that they are not on this list and ironically enough they aren't people that I think deserve to stand for me.
I ALSO OBVIOUSLY CHOSE THEM BASED ON THEIR ATTRACTIVENESS AS YOU CAN SEE BELOW:
So future brides, here is my best advice on how to choose these important people: Choose people who actually care about you, who you dont want to lose touch with ever, who you think will put your opinion above their own when it comes to your day, who will wear a smile on their face no matter what dress you put them in and who will help you organize your special day with excitement. I also tried to focus on where people would be in a couple of years. If I wasn't going to see someone for two years, chances are we might grow a bit apart, that's life, so distance and the likely effort I would put into seeing them factored into my decision making.
I wanted my bridal party to be made up of people who have been important to me at different stages in my life but that I haven't really lost touch with. Obviously my sister was the easiest pick, it would be pretty hard to find anyone who has cared about me longer than her, but the next easiest choice was my best friend Courtney who i've been best friends with since we toddlers. We've been planning our weddings, kids names, and dream homes since we were little girls and it wouldn't be my perfect wedding without her standing beside me. I had thought about adding more people from home, but truth be told, my life has changed drastically since I've lived at home, most of them have either never met Josh or dont know our life together very well so it just didn't make sense to me.
The Mount on the other hand was the birthplace of our relationship and I have met some of the people who I REALLY grew up with at the Mount. During my first two years at the mount Jenny, Sarah and I were completely inseparable, which was not always beneficial to our grades or the health of our liver, In my third year when we stopped living in the same building we weren't quite as inseparable but they were still the two people that I confided in, that I got silly drunk with and that I needed in my life to keep me sane. Britt and I didn't become overly close until our third year of university. I like to call Britt my easy friend (not that way, mind out of the gutter). She has this totally laid back and easy going personality, she is so fun to be around, always available for a talk or a beer and I am always happy and calm when I am around her!
I chose these girls because they are the friends that I never want to lose touch with, that I can trust with anything and everything and that will put my best interest first. What I've noticed over the past month is that the three or four people that deserve to be in my wedding party just as much as the above mentioned girls have been so unbelievably supportive towards me because I think that they know that it was a difficult decision for me and that I still want them to be a part of the planning and everything like that; whereas, there is another small group of girls who probably will not understand or be okay with the fact that they are not on this list and ironically enough they aren't people that I think deserve to stand for me.
I ALSO OBVIOUSLY CHOSE THEM BASED ON THEIR ATTRACTIVENESS AS YOU CAN SEE BELOW:
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