Oh if I had a dollar for the amount of times I've heard this one. I would think it would be obvious to the average soul that I, in fact, do realize that I am a young bride; however, they still wish to inform me at every occasion they see fit. So here is my post to the haters and how to deal with the hate. Why am I getting married so young?:
1. I've been with Josh for over four years, we started living together after 6 months of being together. Obviously we are not on the stereotypical schedule of how relationships usually go. There are a number of reasons for this that I dont plan to share with you but lets just put it this way, as a couple we have had to deal with more things in those four years, then most people have to deal with in 10. I'm not saying that to be dramatic, but it plays a role in why I said yes at 22.
2. Josh is not young. People usually say "Chelsea" in a stern voice when I say this, but well its the facts folks. There is a decent size age gap between the two of us with him being 28. He is at the age where people settle down. I on the other hand, am not, but I've also never been a person looking for a fling, I've always been attracted to people who had their shit together and knew what they were going to do with their life, so perhaps that why I'm marrying someone older (granted it took him plenty of time to get said shit together lol).
3. I dont really understand this whole notion of not having lived my fun years. People always say that one: You're missing out on your fun university years. I always interpret this as them thinking that because i'm young I should essentially be whoring myself out on the weekends. Not my style, I've had plenty of fun with Josh, I got to see my first NFL game, we went on an incredible cruise and I've had great beer and cigars on tropical islands with him. But that's not even the best part about our relationship. The most fun that I have with Josh is doing the little irrelevant traditions that we have established as a couple. like going for a milkshake together every weekend or going out for dinner and listening to live music. That is what is really fun for me because I know that I get to do those things with him for the rest of my life and I'm never going to get sick of that.
4. I see being married young as an opportunity rather than something negative. I see it as more anniversaries. Who knows maybe we will be that couple in the newspaper in 60 years that actually gets to celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary with one another. Maybe its more kids that we will have the opportunity to have. Why would I wait, when I know what I have is right. I'll be done school, Josh will be a CA (fingers crossed), we will be ready to take on the next step.
So if your young, old, or in between and getting married, it doesn't matter people are going to judge you in some way whether its your age or your wedding. These people are only judging you because they resent you, if you need to resent me to feel better about yourself, i'm okay with that, I have thick skin and as seen from my above thoughts, i dont really care what people think (this seems to be a recurring theme eh?). These people can go back to their couch with a bag of chips and continue to be hateful and bitter for the rest of their lives, I'm gonna get married and start a family in the meantime!
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