Everyone believes that the early engagement period will be so exciting and fun and easy; for the most part it is, however, I have quickly learned that certain things really frustrate me at this point, so here is the list:
1. When's the big day? I got engaged last Friday people. I dont even know when the engagement party is going to be much less the wedding date. What I can tell you is the time of year, which is Spring or Summer of 2014. Then I always get the reaction-- "That's so far away"--- News flash I'm broke, Josh is broke and weddings cost a ton of MONEY. We dont want to be engaged for two years, if I could have my wedding in three months, I would. Unfortunately we need to slowly pick away at things over the next two years so that we can have our dream wedding.
2. You become engaged and all of a sudden people start magically coming back into your life. For some, this is exciting to me because its people I haven't talked to since high school who actually mean a lot to me. For others, I'm like we have never had a serious conversation in our life, why do you want to be a part of my wedding and for the really annoying ones its like hey i've been a shitty friend for years now but you're getting married and that changes everything. Spare me.
3. The real kick in the pants comes with the bridal party. Let me put this very clearly to the entire female population of the world: NEVER EVER assume that you will be in someone's wedding party. For one thing they vary in size, the second thing is that people have siblings to consider and third its just a lose lose situation for you. If you dont assume then it will be a pleasant surprise and if not then you wont feel disappointed. This has been a HUGE stress in my life because obviously the last thing I want to do is let people down, but this is also my day and I want the people that mean the most to me beside me. I have a lot of very close girlfriends all of whom I wish could stand by me on my special day, but its not practical and too expensive right now. The point is I love all of my friends, but dont make assumptions because I dont want to break your hearts and through talking with other brides to be, this seems to be a recurring problem with the female population!
4. People planning my wedding or telling me what I need to have at my wedding. (I would like to pre-curse this by saying that I am very thankful for the work my bridesmaids have been putting into it and the advice of other brides) but the rest of the world - How could you possible know what I need in my wedding. You dont know my budget, you don't know my taste so stop blowing up my phone. I love you and I understand that everyone is excited but a girl needs a little breathing room.
5. The ring... I love showing off my ring, most of the time, but when I'm on a ten minute break from class and I need a coffee, its head down and power walking through the cafeteria so as not to draw attention. One of my good friends gave me the brutal truth, which is that once you get engaged your left hand does not belong to you for the next three months and it is so unbelievably true. So if you see me with the head down, best to avoid at all costs.
Those are my frustrations. If you fall into one or more of those categories, dont take it as a personal attack. I love you all, I know you're excited but I'm also way too overwhelmed, way too quickly! While this has been a fairly negative post, I do have to say that some of the greatest joy that I have had to date in my life, has come from laying in bed with Josh just sharing our ideas. Its really special to just lay there and dream of something that you are both so unbelievably excited for!
I promise I wont be such a negative Nancy in my next post, but some days I'm just gonna rant on here as every bride deserves to do!
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